Sunday, July 31, 2011

nice guys aren't attractive

Who said nice guys aren't attractive?
Don't think it was a woman who told me this, it was a guy, a nice guy to be exact.
What's wrong with being nice?
Whenever I read something on the subject of attracting women, I keep on bumping on something like this: "stop being a nice guy".
Hey, come one, give me a break!!!
I'm a nice guy and I get a tone of dates, all my friends are nice guys and all of them are happy with their romantic lives!!
The problem as it seems comes from a misunderstanding.
Here it is: to attract women, you need to become a bad boy.
Who said this?
It was me, in many posts throughout this blog!
Yes, I've said it, but if you ever went and read the whole post, you would notice that most of the time I'm advising the guy to stay nice while adding to his character some bad boys' traits.
It's a real issue with nice guys, they don't seem to get where does being nice end and where being bad begin.
In my opinion, this is what's making so many good guys look like jackass and this is the reason why a woman will like a guy at first and then dump him.
In the end, being a bad boy doesn't really work.
I've been there, I've tried it and it had never served me great.
The only thing that always got great results was the combination of being nice to women while being a bad boy.
How come?
For example, I'm a nice guy, I don't insult women, I don't say absence words from the very first date, at least, i don't ask them to pay for me, I don't slap women when I'm angry (don't ever think of doing it, you will go to jail and someone will slap you there) … however, I do tease them, I call them stupid names, I even hit (genteelly) women and they love it, they appreciate the fact that I'm good to be with, I understand them, I listen to them…, but at the same time, they know that I'm decisive and dominant with them.
And the reality is that all women are naturally attracted to dominant decisive guys.
Don't go too nice and don't go too bad, the best thing is what's in the middle, a nice guy who knows how to get bad when needed.

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