The martial art metaphor.

I still remember one little saying when i was just learning this stuff.

One day, I went to my martial art session, taekwondo, and a new guy was there.

We started the training and all we did was just running and pushups, the guy was really upset and dissatisfied in his looks and later asked the trainer about the moves and the techniques!

The monitor simply told him that they will come soon, but the guy was mostly disappointed and you could see in his face that he won’t be coming again to the training.

And indeed, he didn’t show us his face again.

That’s when I realized a very important mindset: the most important thing in any training or experience are the fundamentals!

The best thing is to do as most guys would never do, keep on learning the fundamentals and delaying instant gratification.

The same thing nearly happened to me with women.

When I was frustrated with how unlucky I was and how I couldn’t get a date, I started thinking about pheromones, tricks, pickup lines, funny jokes and techniques.

I learned a lot and when I would apply them, I would have very limited success.

It’s at that time that I grasped the most important lesson of my life; “do as no one else is doing”.

I realized that most of my friends and the other guys too were only learning the quick fixes and how to say the right things to girls.

I did the exact opposite, I went and started reading psychology and self-esteem books, I found amazing mentors and great guys who have figured out this.

To my friend, I seemed to get worse every time, but one day, I was just sitting with them and I saw a great looking woman, I went to her and got her number just by saying four words.

All my friends were astonished!

That’s what you should aim at too, have a weak fragile start, but grow stronger every day and focus on the inner game.

That’s the reason why you will rarely see me talking about techniques and other tricks to attract women, what I put great emphasis on is the inner game and how to become a mature man.